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These are the mad musings of a middle aged woman, dyke, nurse, poet. I have a dog, a cat, a mobile home, and delusions of grandeur.

Location: California, United States

Saturday, April 29, 2006

My Penis, My Self

Obviously, this title does not refer to me. It refers to the conundrum of the Male Feminist. That Twisty can surely yank the chains of the guys out there. Especially the very short leashes of the men who fancy themselves to be feminists.

Twisty got some people riled up on her
blog after commenting on the comments of a self-proclaimed feminist male who replied to an earlier post.

She begins thusly:

My post on fizzy wine in a pink can recently drew a “male feminist” out of his pin-up encrusted lair and into the open patriarchy-blaming field, with predictably hilarious consequences.

This male feminist (let’s call him “MF” for short), after apprising the group of his high testosterone level, his genius-level “IQ,” and his penchant for porn, announced that his feminist work (which consists of giving money to NARAL) is nothing less than a princely and altruistic gift to all womankind. Why were we to cheer MF’s selflessness on behalf of the public good? Because “[he’s] married, meaning that the sexual advantage to [his] support of feminism is zero.” I’ll let you chuckle over that for a minute.

MF couldn’t seem to grasp why, after so excruciatingly dudely an outburst, there was no enthusiastic clamor to book him as the keynote speaker at the next BlameCon in Bali. His pussy was hurting pretty bad by the end, and by way of delivering a parting zinger, he chastised some of us for using—dear god—sarcasm...

Well, God bless 'em, other self-proclaimed feminist males were brave enough to beard the lioness in her den to explain to Twisty why they believed they could consider themselves feminist.

At around comment number 21, Simon sez:

I guess the reason that I, while owning a penis myself, call myself a feminist [is] because I feel like as a dude who doesn't really fit the traditional stereotype of masculinity, the patriarchy is to some extent oppressive of me as well, and in fact, is oppressive of all men, though of course not to the same extent as it is of women. [emphasis mine]

All I could think was, how interesting that you define yourself as a person who owns a penis. This is particularly telling in light of the fact that, under current law in many states, women are not considered to own their vaginas or their uteri.

If you believe at your core, from birth, that you own your body, it is highly unlikely that you ever found yourself in danger of rape. It is a given that you were never forced to bear a child against your will.

If you identify with your genitalia to the extent that you have to open your argument to support your feminist self with the word PENIS, then you are misunderstanding the idea altogether.

Although I must give Simon his propers and agree that he had some laudable observations about the patriarchy as oppressive to all who dwell within that cultural construct, I still fail to understand how a male can be a feminist.

He may be a supporter of feminism. He may agree with feminism. But he is no more a feminist than I am a black activist. I don't think that I can make it much more simple than that.


Blogger Cheryl said...

Brava, Pam.

10:52 PM PDT  
Blogger ~ nellenelle said...

Nice post...

men never quite know what to make of the word 'patriarchy.' More often than not, my referencing it on the feminist board leads to all sorts of defensive posturing, like dissing patriarchy means I am dissing all guys. Nope. Perhaps they should pay attention to the rest of my post, eh? There are only like 7,500 of them on that board.

So immediately in their mind are visions of this man-hating baitch who wishes to mop floors with them.

Usually most deny having any sense of entitlement (which is evident in the comments you quoted) yet immediately exhibit it in their posts or one soon thereafter.

4:36 PM PDT  
Blogger NursePam said...

LOL! Damned if they do and damned if they don't. No wonder the boys are confused ;^)

6:48 PM PDT  
Blogger just me said...

Good post Pam, TY.

1:08 PM PDT  
Blogger NursePam said...

Thanks Just Me. But I must give Twisty and her fans their just desserts. They sent me in that direction with their insights and thoughts.

8:03 AM PDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You ladies are brutal but I must say I understand and accept your view points.
Signed A Male Supporter of Feminism,

9:08 AM PDT  

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